I would like to be treated like a girl in a gay relationship

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I would like to be treated like a girl in a gay relationship

Unread postby David_ » 30th October, 2017, 7:15 am

Hello,

I'am David and i'am from Poland. I'm writing this because i'am a bit confused.
I'am a young gay guy, looking for a boyfriend, and have dated a lot of guys, but i saw that i have that thing that i would like to be treated like a girl in relations with guys. I know it may sound stereotypical, but i would like to know if that's ok.
For a long time i have been thinking that i'am transgender, because i was always hanging with girls, being a bit feminine, but then i realised that i like my body, so probably i'am a gay guy.

But when it comes to dating, i would like somebody to write first( for exemple. when there is a match on Tinder), somebody to take me out on a diner or somebody to give me flowers. I'am not a person who would like to be the first and who would propose having a date etc.. I prefere to be the one that is being asked.


I know that a lot of gay guys get angry when they get asked "who is the men in relationship".. and i would be really happy to say "he is the men"..


What are youre thoughts ?
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Re: I would like to be treated like a girl in a gay relationship

Unread postby Hierax » 30th October, 2017, 7:22 am

I completely understand you. This isn't weird or anything.
I myself like to be the one who's being asked out to, I don't like taking initiative so there's nothing wrong with that, and that doesn't exactly mean you're being treated as a girl either.
You shouldn't worry about is since it really is normal. :)
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Re: I would like to be treated like a girl in a gay relationship

Unread postby David_ » 30th October, 2017, 7:38 am

Thank you :)

do you also think that guys who takes initiative - it's minority ?
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Re: I would like to be treated like a girl in a gay relationship

Unread postby Hierax » 30th October, 2017, 7:45 am

David_ wrote:do you also think that guys who takes initiative - it's minority ?

Not really, there are a lot of (gay) guys who like taking the initiative. :keke:
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Unread postby David_ » 30th October, 2017, 8:41 am

Maybe i have to search better :)
I have also obsession with tall guys, but that's because i'am tall.. it also make life more difficult :D
because i reject guys who are not tall
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Unread postby Hierax » 30th October, 2017, 9:00 am

David_ wrote:Maybe i have to search better :)
I have also obsession with tall guys, but that's because i'am tall.. it also make life more difficult :D
because i reject guys who are not tall

Yeah I like tall guys too lmao
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Re: I would like to be treated like a girl in a gay relationship

Unread postby marcosgs13 » 1st November, 2017, 9:47 am

You thinking about relationships while it seems to be not very approachable where I live...sad

But I hope you would be fine enough!
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Unread postby ikspulsniac » 14th March, 2018, 9:24 am

I completely agree with you. When I'm in a relationship with someone and somebody asks that question, I'll proudly answer that "he is definitely the man!" Also, I see how that shocks some people, especially considering I'm almost always the only masculine looking guy in the relationship.
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Re: I would like to be treated like a girl in a gay relationship

Unread postby Russell » 15th March, 2018, 11:03 am

There's nothing wrong with it, no. However, I feel like too many people are in the same boat, and the lack of initiative isn't because of self imposed gendered roles, but rather a desire for control which results from a fear of rejection. Whilst it's perfectly okay to take the back seat and wait for someone else to approach you, you just need to ask yourself whether you are okay with the trade off in opportunities missed.
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Re: I would like to be treated like a girl in a gay relationship

Unread postby bassplayer1776 » 6th April, 2018, 7:59 pm

I know what you are saying it’s like straight people are offensive when they ask who is the women, but in reality there is a little bit of gender role in a gay relationship. I prefer to be the one to do the asking but you are not weird trust me
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