In love but confused. Help!!!

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In love but confused. Help!!!

Unread postby Chronicly » 13th February, 2018, 6:25 pm

So I’m totally in love with my boyfriend. I know he’s the one with whom I want to spend the rest of my life. And he’s totally in love with me, and I’m the one with whom he wants to spend the rest of his life. Sounds perfect, right? The problem is that I want to experiment with other guys before I move in with him. Let me explain...

I met my boyfriend 4 years ago, when I was 15 and he was 20. I know that’s a big age difference but there was instant chemistry between us since we met. Plus, we technically didn’t start dating until I was 17, when my mom finally gave us permission to date. That’s right, my boyfriend was always very respectful that he even went and asked my mom permission to date me. My mom did not “allow” us to date, saying I was too young for him. However, she did allow him to visit me at our house. We would hang out, watch movies, and he would even help me with my homework. Needless to say, he eventually earned my mom’s trust and when I was 17 (which is the age of consent in our state) my mom officially gave us permission to date. Now I’m 19 and he’s 23, and it has been a wonderful relationship, having full support of each other’s families. He has graduated from college with a paralegal degree and is now working in a law firm earning $21 an hour. So because he’s becoming financially stable, he said he wants to start looking for an apartment so that we can move in together, something I’ve always dreamed of. The problem is that the idea of experimenting with other guys has started creeping in my head. My boyfriend is the only guy I have ever been with. I haven’t even kissed another guy. And please excuse my language, but want to feel, touch, taste, smell other “sizes, shapes, colors, etc.” My boyfriend’s lovemaking skills are great, but how does he compare to other guys? I don’t want to move in with him without first experimenting what’s out there. On the other hand, I’m scared to cheat on him. I truly do love him and want to be with him for ever. And I don’t want to risk a wonderful relationship just because of my selfishness. What should I do? I don’t want to cheat on him, but I really want to experiment before we move in? Should I confess to him what’s going on in my mind and maybe propose a threesome or something? Please help!!!
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Re: In love but confused. Help!!!

Unread postby Hierax » 13th February, 2018, 6:40 pm

I think you should tell him what's going on inside your head. Tell him you want to experiment and try to explain why. I think that, since your relationship sounds so perfect, he'll understand and he'll allow you to do so. Maybe you can propose to have an open relationship?
I think that, since you've been together for this long, he should be able to understand where you're coming from.
But whatever you do, don't cheat on him because that's the worst thing you can do to someone you love.

Let us know more when you know more!
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Re: In love but confused. Help!!!

Unread postby Chronicly » 13th February, 2018, 9:03 pm

Thanks Sokol for your response. You’re right, the last thing I want to do is cheat and hurt the person I love. The only real solution is to let him know what’s going on in my head. The question now is, how do I bring up the conversation? I can’t just go up to him and tell him “oh by the way, I want to get fucked by other guys.” I might end up hurting his feelings, which is something I don’t want to do. I don’t want him to think I don’t enjoy having sex with him anymore, because I do (he hits my spot really good and often makes me cum hands free ;)). I’m thinking maybe watching a threesome porn movie or something, and see where that leads. But I’ll let you know what happens when amd if I tell him.
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Re: In love but confused. Help!!!

Unread postby Hierax » 13th February, 2018, 9:10 pm

Yeah that seems like a good idea to me. Just try to be nice and not to direct with it because he might get the wrong idea if you do that.
Good luck and keep me updated!
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Re: In love but confused. Help!!!

Unread postby Dolly » 13th February, 2018, 9:29 pm

I agree with Sokol. You absolutely should not cheat on him.
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Re: In love but confused. Help!!!

Unread postby Jacob Choi » 5th March, 2018, 8:16 pm

I get you totally. However, treasure what you have which i'm sure you're doing. Having a boyfriend of 4 years does not come by that easily, I've been waiting for one longer than that time. Is he wanting to settle down with you?
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