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Really worried about my last time

Unread postby sassyfartmoon » 19th August, 2017, 11:16 pm

Hi guys, I'm really worried about something happened to me some days ago and I don't know how to talk about It with my Friends.
I'm 17, and I recently got engaged with a guy a year younger than me, that only recently discovered to be gay.
In the past, I've had other sex encounters and I always used protection, while my boyfriend was a virgin instead. After some time, we've decided to have sex, but we didn't use lube or anything, i didn't have no condoms, and when I used my finger I noticed there was a Little Blood on it.
We started being anxious about It, but then he said that it probably happened because It was his first time, so at the end we've done It.
Now, we're really worried about it, and I don't know any expert to talk about It, so I Have a few questions:
Is It normal that I've managed to get it in even if he was a virgin, without any Lube? (Maybe because of the Blood)
Is the bleeding a normal thing?
Is it normal that, without any lube and with bleeding, he didn't feel too much pain at his very first time and, instead, felt pleasure over It?
Can we contract HIV or any terrible diseases from this?
I'm a really anxious person and I regret what I did.
Ps: my boyfriend had tests for every possible disease to start military School, even AIDS, on April, and he resulted perfect healty to everything.
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Re: Really worried about my last time

Unread postby Pity » 19th August, 2017, 11:56 pm

Sorry that you are going through this. It must be upsetting.

1. It depends. I am pretty surprised it got in.
2. Bleeding is "normal" if you don't use lube because the anus doesn't self-lubricate like vaginas do. That's obvious.
3. I don't think it's normal he didn't feel the pain.
4. Yes, diseases can be contracted because there is now an open wound.

You both need to be tested regularly for the next few months to make sure you two are disease free.
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Re: Really worried about my last time

Unread postby Scherzy » 19th August, 2017, 11:58 pm

Pity wrote:Sorry that you are going through this. It must be upsetting.

1. It depends. I am pretty surprised it got in.
2. Bleeding is "normal" if you don't use lube because the anus doesn't self-lubricate like vaginas do. That's obvious.
3. I don't think it's normal he didn't feel the pain.
4. Yes, diseases can be contracted because there is now an open wound.

You both need to be tested regularly for the next few months to make sure you two are disease free.

can someone who's not a virgin answer the poor kid's question
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Re: Really worried about my last time

Unread postby sassyfartmoon » 20th August, 2017, 12:49 am

But Can we contract diseases even If I don't have any and it was his First time?
I'm really getting anxious about It,
By the way, he did feel pain.
But, after a while,he started feeling pleasure. I'll ask him other details about how he felt today, I'm so afraid I won't live a normal life anymore.
Edit:
I think it should be Impossible to get HIV from a virgin sixteen years old guy, but what other diseases could I get? Have I still got to wait for some tests or Can we do them sooner?
I really don't know how to calm down, I didn't sleep for an entire night because of this.
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Re: Really worried about my last time

Unread postby (un)creative » 20th August, 2017, 5:21 am

sassyfartmoon wrote:But Can we contract diseases even If I don't have any and it was his First time?

Shot answer: no. Don't worry. If none of you has any deceases.
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Re: Really worried about my last time

Unread postby Tim. » 20th August, 2017, 4:26 pm

If he is a virgin the chance of you getting anything is extremely slim. I still reccomend you both get tested anyway, just for the peace of mind. I don't know about your country but most have free sexual health clinics where you can get tested in a private environment.
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Re: Really worried about my last time

Unread postby Pity » 20th August, 2017, 5:39 pm

Scherzy wrote:
Pity wrote:Sorry that you are going through this. It must be upsetting.

1. It depends. I am pretty surprised it got in.
2. Bleeding is "normal" if you don't use lube because the anus doesn't self-lubricate like vaginas do. That's obvious.
3. I don't think it's normal he didn't feel the pain.
4. Yes, diseases can be contracted because there is now an open wound.

You both need to be tested regularly for the next few months to make sure you two are disease free.

can someone who's not a virgin answer the poor kid's question


It doesn’t take a science to degree to know that diseases can transfer through open wounds.
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Re: Really worried about my last time

Unread postby c70 » 20th August, 2017, 9:48 pm

I know its scary. But just try to think logically for a second. I really wouldn't worry too much. From my virgin opinion. I think you are fine given that your BF got tested recently for Military school and he didn't have anything plus he was a virgin. And your sure you didn't have anything then, if both of you were completely clean and you had un-protected sex I don't see how you you would transfer any diseases between you two. Just remember for next time, Always use lube and a condom.

If your still not 100% sure, get tested.
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Re: Really worried about my last time

Unread postby Abdeltyf » 21st August, 2017, 6:42 am

If he has internal ingury, he'd better check a doctor before it gets infected.
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