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Am I ready?

Unread postby AndrewC » 4th September, 2017, 10:00 pm

Ok so I'd rather remain somewhat anonymous on here so I won't use my name but I'd like to see if anyone here can provide advice for my current situation while I provide somewhat of an intro and background to myself

I'm 18, I turned 18 in march. I'm also a virgin (big whoop). I've never had relationship, straight or gay, but I've been wondering over the last few years which way I'd lean.

Ever since my freshman year in high school I've had a fixation about playing with my asshole. At first it was just a little finger here and there but then in a matter of a couple weeks it escalated to shampoo bottles and about anything phillac I could get my tiny hands on. Later on it turned into me wanting to experience it for real, however I knew I was too young and it was incredibly risky as I was so vunerable. This kink continues through my life, I like girls but ofter convince myself that relationships are a headache, I am extremely anti social and don't like dealing with people being annoying

Over the past few years I've looked and talked around grindr and Craigslist, but I can only get to driving to the location and flake because of butterfly's. I just get a feeling of uneasy-ness whenever I do such things. I know I don't really want a relationship and I've wanted to experience sex, oddly enough more guy on guy then guy on girl. I recently had this kink come back after rejecting it for a year or two. I occasionally watch gay porn and often fantasize about being a bottom.
I thought going into a sex shop and walking around would easy my mind and because I'm 18 I can finally get real toys.

I guess the problem is I don't know if I'm ready? I know what I want but I'm uneasy getting it and it seems like too far of a leap. Opinions? Advice?
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Re: Am I ready?

Unread postby Pity » 4th September, 2017, 10:13 pm

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Re: Am I ready?

Unread postby AndrewC » 4th September, 2017, 10:33 pm

Hi and thank you? Would you rather this put in a separate sub forum?
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Re: Am I ready?

Unread postby Kaspar » 5th September, 2017, 7:20 am

Hey man, welcome to the forum. I moved the topic to advice sub-forum, but it's alright.
So for your problem:
1. There is no shame in being a virgin at 18. There are many people, even here that you can talk to personally, who either have not lost their v-card yet or lost it just recently and they are way older than you.
2. It really is up to you if you want to loose it with a random guy out there or someone you're in a relationship with. There is no rush really. I would of course recommend a loving person in a relationship, but it is your choice ultimately.
3. Buying sex toys is a good idea for you! You can try to talk to some older/more experienced members about it, as I personally own none and have no experience with it :P
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Re: Am I ready?

Unread postby c70 » 6th September, 2017, 10:39 pm

Hey, welcome to the forum. I'm 18, and still a virgin. The only advice i will give you is that you should wait for a relationship before having sex. It would be a lot more meaningful to you, im sure. Your first time is something you should remember for a while. Don't make it a shady and potentially dangerous Grindr hookup.
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Re: Am I ready?

Unread postby AndrewC » 11th September, 2017, 11:30 pm

OK so yeah, I went out to my some what local sex shop and picked up a few goodies that have changed my life. First thing was a mini bong and the second was a dildo :rofl2: . I honestly can't decide which one I like most. Another issue that I have is that I'm in a college dorm with a roommate, so I don't exactly have a place to play. I've been reverting to my car in the dark night which makes me feel a little weird, anyone have any sugestions?
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Re: Am I ready?

Unread postby Unseasoned Chicken » 12th September, 2017, 12:25 am

AndrewC wrote:OK so yeah, I went out to my some what local sex shop and picked up a few goodies that have changed my life. First thing was a mini bong and the second was a dildo :rofl2: . I honestly can't decide which one I like most. Another issue that I have is that I'm in a college dorm with a roommate, so I don't exactly have a place to play. I've been reverting to my car in the dark night which makes me feel a little weird, anyone have any sugestions?

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Re: Am I ready?

Unread postby Woollyhoolly » 12th September, 2017, 1:17 am

^ yesh. Your roommate isn't around 24/7 is (s)he?

When/where did you usually jerk off, why not do it then?
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