Coming out reactions

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Re: Coming out reactions

Unread postby Jacketh » 6th April, 2016, 12:26 pm

Stripy Tiger wrote:
Jacketh wrote:Gran said when she found out "she was already quite aware" (she did discover a memory card full of gay porn before I came out)


:rofl2: :rofl2: :rofl2: :lol:


She probably hasn't been able to look at me in quite the same way.

:(
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Re: Coming out reactions

Unread postby Stripy Tiger » 6th April, 2016, 12:34 pm

Jacketh wrote:
Stripy Tiger wrote:
Jacketh wrote:Gran said when she found out "she was already quite aware" (she did discover a memory card full of gay porn before I came out)


:rofl2: :rofl2: :rofl2: :lol:


She probably hasn't been able to look at me in quite the same way.

:(

Coming from a generation where you had to go to theater for porn (Especially gay porn), and read it in magazines, probably made it less common, Don't worry Jacky, it's not your fault.
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Re: Coming out reactions

Unread postby thaprot » 6th April, 2016, 12:59 pm

Jacketh wrote:
Stripy Tiger wrote:
Jacketh wrote:Gran said when she found out "she was already quite aware" (she did discover a memory card full of gay porn before I came out)


:rofl2: :rofl2: :rofl2: :lol:


She probably hasn't been able to look at me in quite the same way.

:(

She probably made a copy of it for herself.
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Re: Coming out reactions

Unread postby bottleneck97 » 6th April, 2016, 2:59 pm

Well well well, where do I begin this long entertaining story?.. :idea:

The very first time I told someone with a solid decision of not treading back and laughing it off, I was 13. The guy I told it to didn't believe me, nor did anyone else in my grade (because this first guy was such a windbag; it was a matter of days for EVERYONE to find out). Up to ninth grade (a year later) everyone thought it was my clever way of getting closer to girls :rofl: [size=60]it worked, but I wouldn't care lol[size=120] Even now I get an odd "So what, you don't even like vaginas?" when I tell someone.

More frequently, though, I get an oh-so-common "I wouldn't tell" - the case for some who naively believe straight people are gifted enough to have a gaydar :gay:

My family still know nothing, probably for the best. (Hint: they are so very Russian to the marrow) But I suppose time will come for all this "We still love you and yada yada but you are a disgrace so get the fuck out of our house" thing :runaway: Hopefully I will have settled down as an independent person by then!
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Re: Coming out reactions

Unread postby scottnesss » 6th April, 2016, 3:56 pm

When i told my mum, her reaction was pretty typical: "you're still young, you don't know what will happen" etc etc.

My dad actually asked me after a drunken night at a family party when i was 17...
Him: "Scott, are you ever going to tell me you're gay?"
Me: "Eventually?"

overall, 10/10 experience.
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Re: Coming out reactions

Unread postby Stripy Tiger » 6th April, 2016, 4:21 pm

scottnesss wrote:My dad actually asked me after a drunken night at a family party when i was 17...
Him: "Scott, are you ever going to tell me you're gay?"
Me: "Eventually?"

I loled at this.
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Re: Coming out reactions

Unread postby Angelic Haze » 6th April, 2016, 6:06 pm

I only actually came out recently. I moved to Middlesbrough for uni (was originally in London so it was a big move for me), the house I'm in has 11 people and we all decided to just ask questions as a sort of get to know each other kinda thing. One of the questions was what's everyone's sexuality. At the time I was still in denial with myself so I said bi. Turned out there's only 4 straight people in the house.

Something about that made me feel a lot more comfortable with them. I gave it a month and I basically just couldn't deal with it anymore so I told my closest 2 friends in the house I was gay and they didn't really care at all which was the biggest relief ever. It just felt really good. November I started seeing somebody and this was the first proper relationship I was in and I wanted things to go right so I decided that at Christmas when I go down to my family in London I'd come out to my friends and family there.

I was nervous but planned to tell my nan first considering her brother was gay and I've always spent a lot of time with her so I felt like she'd be the easiest to tell. However the day I arrived I got a text from my boyfriend saying he feels like he has just made a huge mistake that could possibly end things between me and him. In short he basically told my dad that I was gay. Now to some this isn't a big deal but my mum and dad aren't together and haven't been for 15 years. When I was 10 he moved to Australia since his partner was from there. I visit him every 3 or so years but I've always had a strong relationship with him so he was the one I was most worried to tell.

Needless to say I was furious that the person I called my boyfriend had just taken a huge opportunity away from me. I messaged my dad about things since he sent me a load of Facebook messages and was more worried about me than anything. Not so much that I was gay but in general. I spoke to him on the phone the following day and he told me that he was completely fine with things. He did the chat as well about how I've not changed and I'm still his son. He just said he hopes I'm not going to be a person who puts on a camp persona.

Anyways I saw my nan at my aunts the next day and told them both. My nan started to cry and said she was happy for me and my aunt said she always had a feeling I was and by now I just felt a lot better about myself. I hadn't told my mum yet since I wanted to tell her when my stepdad wasn't in since I honesty hate him.

One day he was out at his brothers house and I saw an opportunity when my mum left the room to do the washing so I told her and she told me I should have never been worried to tell her. But she is convinced that I'm bi and only thinking that I'm gay because I'm seeing a guy. She still does think that way to this day and I see how awkward she feels when I use the word gay to describe myself.

Although like Jack said I still do find it a little strange and almost a little off to say the word about myself.

I won't deny it though, I hated my boyfriend at the time for doing what he did but more so since he said he would never force me to come out and that's basically what he did. It was kinda the downfall of our relationship then but oh well. That's not relevant to the topic so I'll leave it at that.
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Re: Coming out reactions

Unread postby jack21 » 7th April, 2016, 3:25 pm

Dennis wrote:
thaprot wrote:
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thaprot wrote:These days telling people I'm gay is one of my favourite things to do. I never make a big deal of it so the shock on people's faces if they put their foot in their mouth always makes me laugh.


Hahahah exactly this. The main reason why I like being gay, a girl from work yesterday asked me if I had a girlfriend and I said:"Boyfriend in my case, but no I'm single" It was incredibly funny because she tried to respond in a similar way like it wasn't a big deal but you could see complete shock on her face. "Oh ooohhh, okay" :rofl2:

My favourite one was when a new girl started in our office a while back. There was already me and 3 other women who worked there so this made it me and four women. The new girl piped up, within about half an hour of her first day, 'You better be careful or us four will turn you gay'! I just looked at her and said 'bit late for that', the look on her face was a picture. :lol:


hahahaha, see Jack being out is actually a lot of fun. The first few people you tell will be nerve wracking but once you get used to it, it turns into something really funny to tell people and see their responses. I've done a few mindfucks where people asked me:"Are you really?" And I responded with:"No of course not wtf" the confusion is so much fun when they have no idea what to believe anymore. So come out and have fun :D



Oh yeah i know its gonna be ALOT of fun. And its exactly MY kinda thing to do :lostpainting: , To be honest im not overly sure why i havent come out already?
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Re: Coming out reactions

Unread postby Rainbrojacob » 7th April, 2016, 11:23 pm

My parents are Dutch so they honestly had absolutely no problem with it :awesome: They said that if they were to be upset about it our family living in the Netherlands would hate them (we live in the U.S)
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Re: Coming out reactions

Unread postby Tim. » 8th April, 2016, 12:20 am

The first person I ever came out to was a girl I was only slightly friends with at school. We spoke I. Homeroom and maths and that's it. Anyway, one night we were talking on Facebook and I essentially became the middle man between her and one of my friends who she had a massive crush on, was awkward for me as I basically had to tell her he wasn't interested after she made me casually slip into a conversation that she wanted him. :lol: I'll always remember that as it's the closest thing to teenage drama I've ever come to. (I just spent half an hour reading all these old messages from 2012, was hillarious)

Well after that we ended up talking about crushes and dating, a topic I would normally avoid. She told me that there were only 4 guys in our year who she could date, 3 of my friends and me. This was the first and only time someone of the opposite sex has expressed interest in me and it actually made me uncomfortable lol, then she asked who I was interested in. So I just thought fuck it, I'm sick of hiding, and told her I was gay she was like cool, never would have guessed, bla bla Bla

Anyway that gave me a confidence boost so I immediately texted one of my best friends (I have two, one I met when I was four. We went to different high schools and he became really religious. But we were still close but I was always nervous to tell him, and one I met in high school who is the one I texted) and just said "there's a reason I'm never interested in conversations about girls, I'm gay" he took it great and really didn't care, we actually became much stronger as friends. There was one time we were texting and I mentioned checking out a hot guy and he told me not to tell me that, but I'm guessing he got over that as he's always asking me about my love and sex life.

My other best friend actually asked me if I was gay a few months later when we were super drunk on vodka. He said he thought I might have been and didn't care. We don't bring it up much but we don't really talk about dating at all.

Other than that I'm not really sure who knows, people who were around when my friend asked me, I've made sarcastic comments among group of friends, that basically outright say I'm gay and no one seems to bother to acknowledge that :skull:


Parents are a different story, they would be fine with it I know that. I just don't have a very open relationship with them. I find it too awkward because they are both so cringey people. My sister feels the same I know as she never tells my parents anything about her personal life and she's just about the most outgoing and loud person I know. I just can't bring myself to do the I'm gay speech. There will be hugging and mum will cry and the we will always love and support you. Blah :pukey: I'll probably just say I'm going out on a date or something as I'm walking out the door. If they ask what her name is (I don't even know if they would expect it to be a girl. I've never done anything to hint I'm into girls and they have found my browsing history before :lol:) I'll just sat "his name is bla, bye"

Also this is unnecessarily long, I had time to kill ok!
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Re: Coming out reactions

Unread postby Nekoda_Raphael1 » 9th April, 2016, 7:54 pm

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Re: Coming out reactions

Unread postby Nekoda_Raphael1 » 9th April, 2016, 8:20 pm

i have told seven people all my friends as i have just haven't told my family yet. but 3 of my friends stopped talking to me. after i told them yet they haven't said everything bad they just stopped talking to me the next day after i told them :confused:


but the over 4 we still talk and nothing has happen between us but that Two of them came out as bi and one of the over 2 of the my friend came out as a lesbian . but the last was my best friend and we are still friends though i told him like 5 days ago so i still don't really don't know :)

to say how i came out is weird i have no clue why i do it but with all seven of them i told over text.
i find it hard to sleep and sometimes i get board i start watching or reading things or stat to think about things and about 4:00 am i don't know what happens but i automatically thinking i should tell people so sometimes i do and after that i can't sleep as i have no clue of what might happen the next day :sleep:
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Re: Coming out reactions

Unread postby jack21 » 10th April, 2016, 3:13 pm

I reckon ALOT of people are Bi, they just wont admit it. They think of it as a weakness until later life
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Re: Coming out reactions

Unread postby ikspulsniac » 14th March, 2018, 12:11 pm

Having been coming out to only other gay people, I did not know what to expect when I told one of my straight friends. I don't remember what post it was, but it was something about a bisexual or something of the sort. So I messaged her about it and we talked about. Then, that led up to the "I've got something to tell you" line. So I obviously come out to her as well. Which worked out amazingly because she used that opportunity to come out to me as bisexual.
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